Sunday, July 15, 2012
Why marriages are made in heaven?
Well a marriage is the most crucial and important festival of everyone’s life even the ones who cannot marry legally (like homosexuals and lesbians) they also dream about marriage and the well performed rituals and ceremonies which give the essence of unity and togetherness. The Holy matrimony is the biggest event celebrated worldwide by humans and enjoyed by heterosexuals. I am differentiating the gender roles here as the match made in heaven are based on unlimited factors. We call it the match made in heaven and initially we do work hard in creating the moments and transforming the opportunities into workable situations which contribute in making the perfect wedding.
Well we all admire and look out for the best partner. No matter how pathetic we are, we need simply the best. Well our expectations and our assumptions mix together to fetch that perfect one. From our point of view we are 100 % right and others may be wrong or are defiantly wrong. For every Parent there child is the best in the world and they cannot tolerate anything negative about there child, they cannot face comments or labels as they got the best and real gemstone. This so called “mine is perfect “attitude makes situations difficult as this attitude does not allow any one who is less than perfect. Guys and girls get the rejection tag numerous times due to this factor only. Sometimes the perfection is calculated on the basis of beauty, sometimes on the basis of money and sometimes it’s an overall decision considering background, lifestyle, and status.
Marriage is not a simple game; it is complicated structure which affects both the families if not conducted in right manner. The brides family handles the most critical stage as they have to please the grooms family in every way and the toughest moment is when girl leaves there family and adopts a new family. The stage of brides family is considered critical because they do not know the temperament and inside behavior of the new family and the groom. Giving a daughter is like giving there world so it’s obvious to be insecure and worried. Girl on the other hand are much more stressed specially in case of arrange marriages as they don’t know the guy in reality and they have not shared much casual moments with the guy which creates a blank situation which is surely unpredictable about the guys attitude and nature. Well most of the arrange marriages are based on the basis of money , status and beauty and considering only these things while selecting groom are not enough. The most important is the compatibility between the two people which matters a lot. The groom and the bride need to be given right amount of time to know each other. The more the time they will spend the more they will acknowledge each other interests and like.
Love marriages are often not regarded as match made in heaven and this tagline is specially given by parents but love marriages are winning hearts and dominating the arrange marriage status due to high acceptance and compatibility factors. The guy and girl in love marriage know each other behavior and nature and they feel physically and emotionally satisfied so the chances of impotent husband or gay /lesbian partners is easily tested and avoided. Love marriage which is still not considered respectful by many conservative families, is certainly more successful than arranged marriages as the parents and the families cannot guarantee the compatibility of the partners. I am not advocating about love marriages but considering the today’s scenario as things are pretty much complicated in this metro sexual world.
Well as we all know that there is something called destiny , and maybe that destiny decides are overall fortune and life. Sometimes the match made in heaven turns out to be a horror nightmare and sometimes it gives the feeling of gods and goddesses. It’s an unpredictable affair and certainly a game of casino. It’s always advisable to consider some inspection and alertness before taking that big decision because it’s not about two partners but about two lives and two worlds.
There are millions of arrange marriages running successful and there reason of survival is trust and respect. The partners who prefer loyalty and love are the ones who remain successful all over there life. Arrange marriage or love marriage, any type and any style of marriage, there secret of success is based on the foundation of honesty.